Tuesday, April 16, 2013

L is for Losing

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L is for Losing. (a prologue post to S is for Submission *shudder*)

Because sometimes, we do. It's just a fact, that's all--sometimes we lose.

And that's okay. Actually, it's more than okay, sometimes it's the best thing for us. I'm not saying it doesn't hurt, doesn't pull at our heart and head in ways that feel designed to clobber us for good--FOREVER.

But some of the best opportunities that have happened to me (in many areas of my life) happened because I was free to walk into them since the opportunity I was pursuing slammed shut in my face.

And those slams hurt--A LOT. A LOT, A LOT.

Plus, at the time, I had no idea that there was a different opportunity out there, waiting for me to stop wailing, crying, and basically rolling on the floor in anguish. And that opportunity would not have fit into my life if I had been busy with that other one, you know, that one that walked out on me and tried to break me in two.

So, this is what I do now. Try to stay as calm as possible. Maintain the belief that all my "just right for me" opportunities are on there way towards me. It is my job to stay out of their way, to stay open for the many potential opportunities so that I can lean into the right one when it presents itself.

I want to talk more about this when I get to S, because S will be for Submission *double shudder* and that was a weird and dark place for me that stretched out for over a year of my life. A YEAR PEOPLE!

For now, I leave you with a quote I use everyday:

My ships come in over a calm sea--Florence Scovel Shinn 


  1. Visiting from A to Z. Great post Rebecca. It is so true that some of the best things come out of loss or failure. If we great it that way, after a short stint at grieving, we are then open for that better thing that awaits. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. God bless, Maria from Delight Directed Living

  2. Some of my best lessons have been from a loss, painful as it is. But submissions? I could spend a year blogging about that...

  3. I'm a walking learning curve-- the losses help me redirect. I also find losing comes with gaining, maybe in other areas. Good post.

  4. If winning is sweet then what is losing? Sour? Bittersweet? Yeah there's got to be losers in order for their to be winners. Charlie Sheen said it best (or maybe not) "Winning!"